Ouch...These are the worst! It's so embarrassing and frustrating.
Very likely, I would bet that you reacted and became...
You acted this way because you probably felt huge emotions underneath...
Embarrassed..."Random strangers are staring at me."
Judged..."People think I am a bad parent"
Hurried..."We don't have time for this! We have places to go!"
Violated..."This kid thinks she can yell/cry and get whatever she wants!"
Controlled/Manipulated..."I am not going to let this child tell me what to do or manipulate me!"
Don't give your power away.
No person can make you react to anything. You always have choices.
For example, in the above situation, you didn't have to react to your child's emotions. You chose to.
Your melting down child was trying to get her needs met. This horrible (and painful) temper tantrum was the way she chose how to do it.
When children grow older and become teenagers, the pattern doesn't always change.
Teens are trying to get their needs met. Teenagers use all kinds of strategies (healthy and unhealthy) to try to get what they want....and need.
TAKE YOUR POWER BACK THROUGH...
Sure you’re going to have difficult emotions triggered when your kid acts out. That’s understandable...and I'm not advising you to be an emotionless robot. That's not possible.
But after that initial trigger, it’s your job, as an adult, to do the work it takes to regulate your emotions. Manage them. Understand them. Don't let them control your actions or reactions.
When you decide that your emotions are your responsibility you’re in a perfect position to powerfully influence the only person you can - yourself.
You can control your actions and reactions.
There is only one person's actions you can control.
By 1) taking excellent care of yourself 2) regulating your emotions, and 3) controlling your reactions...you'll be an example of mature, personal responsibility to your teen.
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